Lin Weeks Wilder

Lin Weeks Wilder

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It’s an interesting noun- the meaning of which became radically different for me once I became a Benedictine Oblate.

Many lifetimes ago, I used it to refer to critically ill patients, but as as an  adverb upon naming all the physiologic parameters used to measure the cardiac and pulmonary status of patients, “He’s been stable for the last hour…”.

I encountered it anew as a Benedictine Oblate: stability is one of the three promises an Oblate makes upon making her oblation.

  • Stability of Heart – This promise expresses the oblate’s commitment to a particular monastic community. Stability of heart reaffirms the basic promise of conversion made at baptism.
  • Fidelity to the Spirit of Monastic Life – This promise expresses a commitment to live a life of spirituality, piety and balance.
  • Obedience to the Will of God – This is a promise to grow in discernment of God’s will through prayer, spiritual direction and faithfulness to one’s religious traditions. Obedience is not a series of acts grudgingly done, but the response of a willing heart in service to God.

Because we know that real stability means death,

for that is the only state where we achieve a state of changelessness, we seek a place of permanence…where we can stay. There is a deep hunger for such a place in each of usThe Desert Fathers write: “Stay in your cell and your cell will teach you everything.” 

For Benedictines, Buddhists and mystics from all traditions, stability is pursued through rigorous attention to the present, a determined focus on a place inside where one can be. A place we must stick with– the ordinary, mundane and unexciting. Steadfastly determined to find God among the pots and pans. Or the excruciatingly painful losses of relationships, spouses, friends, acclaim, identity.

The fact is, for Benedictines, stability, whether of cloister or geography or of heart, is a major piece of the puzzle. It’s the ability to stick with it, stay in there, keep trying. It is the fixedness, not just of place, but of heart and will. It is more than just not moving around…The routine, the mundane, the everyday and predictable are precisely the arenas in which we must daily strive and win in the spiritual life.

Brother Jerome Leo

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Lin Wilder

Lin Wilder has a doctorate in Public Health from the UT Houston with a background in cardiopulmonary physiology, medical ethics, and hospital administration. 

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